Self-Loving (not self-loathing) on Groundhog Day

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with YOURSELF.

 I repeat: with YOURSELF. Ironically, this relationship tends to be your most critical and fault-finding, and the one with the highest standards.

 One of my clients calls the discouraging voice in her head, the itty-bitty shitty committee. The committee taunts:

You aren’t good enough to do that!

Why did you say that?

You can’t attempt that!

 We ALL know this committee and we’ve ALL wanted it to tell us something else, right?

 Personally, I’d rather have a pep rally and a synchronized dance team encouraging me along the way.

 I want to hear:

Give it a try and see what happens!

Take the risk with faith!

You’re deserving of good things!


The good news: change starts with YOUR thinking. 

If the committee isn’t serving you, you don’t need it. A belief is just a thought you continue to think.

You can believe anything you want.

How do you change the way you think about yourself?

Ask, answer and follow up on these 3 questions:

  1. What type of relationship would you love to manifest? Get specific.  Anything in your imagination can be made into reality. Thoughts become things; take the time to define your ideal relationship.

  2.  What are the words you’d like to hear so you can become more comfortable and confident in your own skin? Once you have the list, play those words on repeat. Write them down, post them up, take ‘em with you when you go out.

  3.  When was the last time you said “I Love You” to YOURSELF?  If it’s been awhile (or never), get to it now! Find a mirror, hold eye contact and say it loud!


And you’re on your way!

Amy Fukuizumi